Couples Counselling – Attachment Theory


Our closest relationships are usually romantic. Attaching to the right partner and staying together is rarely simple. To then get married and to have children and raise a family together only adds complexity to the relationship dynamic.

Few relationships exist conflict-free. The art of a working relationship is to be willing to understand one another and to acquire tools to resolve your disputes. Not voicing your needs, or allowing things to pass, will eventually cause resentment and one or the other – or in some cases both - in the relationship will shut down and give up.

How can counselling for couples help?

In long-term relationships or marriages it is very easy to fall into the trap of not listening or not communicating your needs clearly. We take on roles in the relationship. Usually roles we have taken on from our earliest relationships with our family are played out in our current relationships although most times we are completely unaware of this. What a couples counsellor can offer here is a safe space in which each person can express themselves secure in the knowledge that the therapist has no preconceived notions of who you are as a couple, with the added bonus that the counsellor has the skills and training behind him to guide you through your concerns and see the dynamic of your relationship and what is being played out.

As your counselling sessions progress, you and your partner may find a way of overcoming your problems, or you may decide it is time to part ways. Either way, hopefully counselling will offer you the space to grow and decide what you would like the future to hold for both of you.

Common Relationship Issues


  • trust
  • betrayal or an affair
  • jealousy
  • lack of communication
  • financial issues
  • work-related stress
  • abusive behaviour
  • different sexual needs or other sexual issues
  • family conflicts
  • different goals and values
  • different parenting styles
  • controlling behaviour
  • life changes.

This list is not exhaustive and every situation is different.

I can be contacted at any time by phone or email if you have anything you would like to ask. An informal chat about what you could get out of counselling is a good way to start.

Tel: 07788 595 902


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