Attachment based therapy – Clapham & London Bridge

Couples Counselling  London Bridge, Clapham, Beckenham
Couples Counselling
London Bridge, Clapham, Beckenham

Our earliest relationships with our caregivers, primarily the main care giver, determine how we experiience and relate to others during our adult life. This strong early bond, and the quality of the interaction are vitial for one to feel safe, worthy, and stand a good chance in leading a healthy life in our forever changing world.

For this to happen one only needs to have good enough care during ones early formative years.

What happens if we do not recieve good enough care?

if for instance one is born in to a dysfunctinal family and not given good enough care one will still grow, as a plant does towards the light, but not as robust. One will learn to disregard parts of oneselve that were not important or may define a role in the family taking on responsibility and pressure. Or one may dislike self and be critiical.

As you can see from this brief overview good attachment is vital for healthty relationships and plays a huge part in strong attachments throughout ones life.

Please refer to my website for further informatiion or contact me on

07788595902

mehmetaltan@rocketmail.com

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Counsellor Clapham & London Bridge

 

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I trained as an Integrative Counsellor on a BACP-accredited course at CPPD. I fully comply with BACP ethical guidelines as a member of that association. I continued training for a further three years on Attachment Theory at the Wimbledon Guild where I obtained a Postgraduate Diploma in Attachment Theory and at the The Bowlby Centre where I am continuing my studies in Pschoanalytical Psychotherapist UKCP accredited.

My ‘integrative’ background allows me to use different theories and approaches to combine the various types of counselling I have trained in. In sessions with clients I am primarily relational with a strong focus on Attachment based Theory, but will also use the Psychodynamic approach, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).

I consider each client to be unique. One approach will not suit all clients. The approach needs to be tailored to reflect each client’s individual circumstances.

As a practitioner, I am firmly committed to continuing professional development. Some of the most recent training courses I have attended relate to working with abuse, couples, trauma, Attachment Theory, Neuroscience.

Work

Summer 2012 I started my private practice in Clapham and then expanded to London bridge.

In the spring of 2013, I was appointed as Clinical Practice Manager of The Awareness Centre a position I served in until early 2014. Due to demand I now only work in private practice.

Before taking up my post at TAC, I worked with Greenwich Mind, as an individual counsellor and group facilitator. My own background, experiences, recent client work and the training I received with Mind have helped me develop a deep interest in culture and how one’s cultural background impacts on the individual and can be a source of stress and anxiety.

Culture for me is the mix of characteristics, beliefs, values and social behaviour of a particular group of people. It encompasses cultural heritage (ethnicity), nationality, language, religious belief systems and sexuality, among other things. I am grateful to have had the chance to explore how these issues can impact on clients both within and outside of the counselling room. I am keen to work with clients facing issues because of ‘cultural’ problems.

One area I specialise in is potential cultural conflict. I have recently been working with how culture and sexual identity interact, and I am fascinated by the role played by shame in sexuality and how this can affects other areas of personal development including self-esteem and intimacy.

Clients are invited to arrange an initial consultation with me at which we can meet and discuss more about what the client wants from counselling. Clients thus have the chance to ask questions, explore expectations about the process and raise any anxieties they may have. Clients often intuit which counsellor is right for them. If I have any advice to give clients it is to respect what their ‘gut’ is telling them after the first session and then decide whether to continue or not with me as a therapist. If you do opt to work with me, I believe in listening to you about what you need, including the duration of counselling. I am very willing to work short-term or develop a longer, more open-ended counselling relationship

I can be contacted at any time by phone or email if you have anything you would like to ask. An informal chat about what you could get out of counselling is a good way to start.

I practice from Clapham and London Bridge, Toley street.  The nearest stations are Clapham North, Clapham Common, Clapham South, Clapham high street  and London Bridge.

Practice days Monday through to Friday

I can be contacted on the number or email below. If I do not answer the phone or respond to an email immediately then this generally means I am in practice. I will get back to you within a 24 hour period.

Tel: 07788 595 902

e: maltancounselling@gmail.com

Counselling Clapham SW4, Counselling London Bridge SE1, Counselling Greenwich SE1

 

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Attachment based Counselling/Psychotherapy London Bridge & Clapham

 

 

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My name is Mehmet, I am a attachment based Psychotherapist offering counselling in London Bridge & Clapham. I work with individuals and couples. I am BACP registered.

Please check my website for further details.

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Counselling Clapham & South West London

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I am a fully qualified integrative counsellor and a registered member of the BACP ( British Association Counselling and Psychotherapy)

I run my practice from Clapham High Street . My practice is walking distance from Clapham North, Clapham Park and Clapham South underground. I work with individuals and couples

Please visit my website for further information

 

http://www.londonandclaphamcounselling.co.uk

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Counselling London Bridge SE1

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I am a fully qualified integrative counsellor and a registered member of the BACP ( British Association Counselling and Psychotherapy)

I run my practice from the Psychosynthesis Centre on Tooley Street . I work with individuals and couples. If you are looking for counselling  I look forward to hearing from you.

Please visit my website for further information

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Counselling Clapham SW4, Counselling South West London, Attachment Therapist Clapham.

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I am a qualified counsellor and registered member of the  British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP) based in Clapham SW4, London Bridge SE1. I originally trained as an integrative counsellor but have since expanded and continued my professional development in Attachment therapy at the Wimbledon Guild and the Bowlby Centre. I strongly believe in the importance of early relationships and how they determine our behaviours in our Adult lives. How we deal with hurt and emotions and conflict are all a result of past relationships. I invite clients who are interested in understanding how their past plays out today.  These can be issues to do with relationships, loneliness, anger, rage, addiction, self-harm, paranoia, obsessive-compulsive behaviours, anxiety, social anxiety; the list is endless. Understanding oneself and the uncomfortable feelings experienced that, rationally have no explanation, is the key to a happier and more fulfilling life.

If you believe your unhappiness is a result of your past and want to explore and work through those issues, I invite you to contact me for an initial consultation

 

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Couples Counselling – London Counselling – Clapham SW4

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How can counselling for couples help?

 

A relationship or marriage can easily fall into conflict. We stop listening and communicating our needs clearly. Talking to someone neutral may be all that it takes for you to have clarity. What couples counselling offers here is the opportunity to speak to someone who has no preconceived notions of who you are as a couple, bonus of having skills and training to guide you through your worries. 

 

The overall aim of couples counselling is to assist you

  • Understand how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship.
  • Reflect on the past and how it operates in the present.
  • Communicating constructively 
  • Learn why arguments escalate.
  • Negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible.

 

Through counselling, you and your partner may find a new way of communicating and understand each other and how to work as a unit, or you may decide it is time to part ways. Either way, counselling offers the safe space to explore, grow and decide what you would like the future to hold for you. 

 

As your counselling sessions progress, you and your partner may find a way of overcoming your problems, or you may decide it is time to part ways. Either way, hopefully, counselling will offer you the space to grow and decide what you would like the future to hold for both of you.

Common problems explored

There are many different concerns that may bring you to couples counselling, ranging from a lack of communication right through to a betrayal or affair. Some common issues that can be explored through couples counselling include:

  • lack of trust
  • betrayal or affair
  • jealousy
  • lack of communication
  • financial issues
  • work-related stress
  • different sexual needs or other sexual issues
  • family conflicts
  • different goals and values
  • different parenting styles
  • life changes.
  • Attachment Styles 
  • Control 

If you are interested in engaging in couples counselling I look forward to hearing from you to discuss your needs further. 

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Counselling Clapham North, Clapham South, Clapham Common

 

 

 

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I am a fully qualified counsellor practising in Clapham. My practice is based on Clapham High Street. The nearest stations are Clapham North, Clapham Common, Clapham High Street and Clapham South.

Please visit my website for further information – www.londonandclaphamcounselling.co.uk

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Attachment Theory

 

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Seeing the world through the attachment lens

We are born into this world through another human being. Our basic needs – food, water, and being kept warm and clean – are elementary things that we need in order to survive. However, those needs, which are primitive,  are not enough on their own.  Our innate drive may well be to survive in any given situation, but care, interaction, a safe home and emotional bonds between ourselves and our caregivers are vital in how we see the world and in our emotional experience of it. We are moulded by our environment, culture, religion, and our interactions with our caregivers and people who we have regular direct contact with.

Through our vital early years, primarily through the medium of maternal care, which comes in both physical and emotional form, we learn how to relate to the world.  As adults, we are mostly unaware that our early attachment experiences become our attachment styles. This plays out in most of our relationships: how we see ourselves in relation to others; how we deal with conflict; how available or not we are in our relationships; how we trust  others; how we deal with loneliness; how we hold onto certain relationships out of fear; how we feel we need the other to make us whole.  The list is endless.

I believe in attachment theory. It makes sense. It lies at the very core of each and every one of us. Take a look around you, we are social by nature we need interaction to survive.

Understanding oneself is the key to change. Our attachment styles are not set in stone and through exploration we are able to empower ourselves and change as we develop stronger and healthier relationships.

 

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Her Self

 

HER- SELF – A six-week course to empower women with the tools & insights to develop emotional resilience, self-confidence, acceptance and trust in themselves.

 

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Mariam is a qualified Counsellor/Psychotherapist and has years of experience working with a range of issues in her private practice in Clapham.  The programme she will be running is designed to enable women to develop self-esteem, emotional resilience, confidence and trust in themselves.

I had always lived in someone else’s shadow, and working with Mariam opened a tightly closed door to my own life, I was accepted for who I am and I began to grow into myself. Mariam helped me to find love and accept myself as I am, without pretending or wearing masks to hide away. She always believed in me, and I finally believe in myself. With her help, have gained freedom in all its beauty. (Testimonial) 
 
My time with Mariam has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. I found her to be kind, warm and skilful; in short very good at what she does. I felt comfortable in her company and without really realising it, was quickly able to trust her and trust that she valued my experiences and was committed to helping me understand these issues. I was  helped me to work through some long-held painful experiences, and to develop a sense of confidence so that I can accept and move forward in my life. (Testimonial) 
 

Please check out the website for more details – www.mb-therapy.co.uk

The programme will run for six consecutive Tuesday evenings from 11th October.

See www.mb-therapy.co.uk/courses for more info.

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